Date: Wed, 29 Jul 1998 14:48:58 PDT
Reply-To: Laura Personal <calgaryinnyc@HOTMAIL.COM>
Sender: "SAS(r) Discussion" <SAS-L@UGA.CC.UGA.EDU>
From: Laura Personal <calgaryinnyc@HOTMAIL.COM>
Subject: manners/respect REAL life
I wanted to make the email short, because I know how we all over react
to NON SAS postings.
However, I have received a so many responses (FOR WHICH IM VERY Grateful
FOR PLEASE EVERY COMMENT IS HELPING...I APPRECIATE THEM ANY SUGGESTION
The crime itself: I walked into an office where the 'slapper' was
sitting, to enquire what he has completed on a joint project that we
were working on, and to inform him what pt I was at. He was at our
bosses office, the desk is 6-7 feet from the door. I walked in w/o
announcing my presence (as I usually walk in (I am not certain why, but
as standard practice we dont knock, we just enter the bosses office))...
I can relate about being so absorbed in my code that I block out
everyone around me, and can jump when someone startles my by the
slightest noise ...and how one can feel ones heart fall to ones toes.
My reaction is to jump, not to strike!!!!!!
I was behind him with a little robot, 6 inches, which says 'danger i
sense danger'... it makes no siren noises, just a robotic voice. I had
just pressed its button in the office next door AND in the hallway, and
from the past know that the robots voice can be heard clearly at the
I accept the fact that it is possible that I had frightened him! I
apologized to him..The American Webster Dictionary defines apology as
and I quote "something spoken in defense; expression of regret at an
offense" the fact that he didnt apology suggests A. he feels justified
and feels appropriate at what he did. Yes? Yes!
It was not my intention to play a practical joke or to frighten him... I
ve always hated that robot it grates my nerves...when I hear it at my
bosses office. However, I picked it up from its usual place, and I did
it, I pressed the button for it to speak. I take responsibility for my
To me it is outrageous that My Boss, who is well known ALL over the
world, for his research, and for his integrity... feels that 'there are
worse things then to be hit on the face'...outraged that 'he didnt call
me into his office ...displaying that MY safety and that MY distress was
off concern to him'...outraged that he spoke to me in a demeaning manner
because he felt challenged! Outraged that my co-workers think that there
is nothing wrong with this. Outraged that they tell me that i'll have to
work with him so get over it.
My anger right now is toward my boss..the director...he is not a manager
..he is a dir of my small dept. Yes there are people above him! We
have a Human Resources Dept, and a employee Relations Dept (which I
contacted)...and now feel like they lied to me...because they said they
have no policy against it..and i found it in our manual clearly
stated...I just dont know what 'discipline' can mean!!!!
As I said I didnt want the non-SAS question/topic to become too lengthy
and irritable, but there was another incident with another co-worker,
sexual harassment issue. Which at that time I reported to my boss
(female)..and she WITNESSED the situation. YES WITNESSED. Nothing was
placed in Writing, and that co-worker is still here. Half a year ago,
she requested that I work on a project with him (take a breath he is not
a SAS programmer or Stat) to which I objected. She threw papers in the
air in a violent manner, and suggested loudly that I am overreacting,
and others have no problems with him...I put her in her place, but the
uneasy feeling remains.
My concerns today...that this place is a joke! All the research that I
have done in the past 4 years...all the respect I have for these
scientists has just went down the sewer...I AM NOT SURE IF YOU can
understand my anger... the first incident I didn't pursue. I knew it was
against the law... however it is the combination of BOTH ACTS, I CANT
JUST IGNORE AND WALK AWAY.
We all know that it is not difficult to find a Position as a SAS
Programmer and Statistician...but to walk away by resigning is just too
easy for them. I am concerned (EXTREMELY) what kind of reference they
will give me after my employment here is terminated. Second, I have to
give them a months notice...honestly i want to run!!!!! Everyday that
this situation isnt dealt with, my demands grow and my repulsion for my
Now it is i want a formal apology in writing, I want this documented in
his file. I want a memo to go to all the co-workers what is and isnt
appropriate behaviour. I want THEM to take action...damn it.
I ignored the first incident...and it came back to taunt me 2 years
later...This will NOT! I am a tough little SASer...Now if I only knew
how to fight.
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